Every man wants a battle to fight. It’s the whole
thing with boys and weapons.
And look at the movies men love—Braveheart,
Gladiator, Top Gun, High Noon, Saving Private Ryan. Men are made for
battle. (And ladies, don’t you love the heroes of those movies? You
might not want to fight in a war, but don’t you long for a man who
will fight for you? To have Daniel Day Lewis look you in the eyes
and say, "No matter how long it takes, no matter how far, I will
find you"? Women don’t fear a man’s strength if he is a good man.)
Men also long for adventure. Adventure is a deeply
spiritual longing in the heart of every man. Adventure requires
something of us, puts us to the test. Though we may fear the test,
at the same time we yearn to be tested, to discover that we have
what it takes.
Finally, every man longs for a Beauty to rescue. He
really does. Where would Robin Hood be without Marian, or King
Arthur without Guinevere? Lonely men fighting lonely battles. You
see, it’s not just that a man needs a battle to fight. He needs
someone to fight for. There is nothing that inspires a man to
courage so much as the woman he loves. Most of the daring (and okay,
sometimes ridiculous) things young men do are to impress the girls.
Men go to war carrying photos of their sweethearts in their
wallets—that is a metaphor of this deeper longing to fight for the
Beauty. This is not to say that a woman is a "helpless creature" who
can’t live her life without a man. I’m saying that men long to offer
their strength on behalf of a woman.
you see how the desires of a man’s heart and the desires of a
woman’s heart were at least meant to fit beautifully together? A
woman in the presence of a good man, a real man, loves being a
woman. His strength allows her feminine heart to flourish. His
pursuit draws out her beauty. And a man in the presence of a real
woman loves being a man. Her beauty arouses him to play the man; it
draws out his strength. She inspires him to be a hero.